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SORRY FANNIE.... I hope u and ur family´ll get better soon..... my thoughts are with u too. Huges

I don´t only want to find out why, I also want to fight for her. We had so many plans, including moving to Mexico and having children.
I feel lost and hopeless, I couldn´t go to work for 3 weeks, I take pills against depressions and I lost 9 kilos during the last month (well at least something)...

Well, sometimes there simply is no explonation Marco.. Humans are sometimes too complicated to understand even ourself. I really hope you'll find something to keep your hands from lying idle. I know things take time, I'm not over my ex yet, and thats 7 fucking months ago. We weren't even married either. Just make sure you find the right time to decide when it's a smart thing to keep fighting, or spend your energy on yourself. Good luck to you anyhow.

My bad of the week, my best friend got really drunk on town some weeks ago, and the taxi driver somehow managed to talk her over and made her sleep at his place. How maximum unproffessional isn't that. He's 40 and married with two children. He didn't just sleep either, he did a lot of thing with her, some of wich she can't even remember, due to shock and intoxication.

Well she´s worth fighting, there´s no doubt. But what can I do from here. I´m thinking about leaving Germany soon. I won´t be happy here, I´ll have to try everything right? Trying to improve my Spanish right now, at least that´s something I can do for Mexico. I gotta give it a try.

Quoted from ""Fannie""

Hi all
Just wanted to let you know that my father passed away on 1 October at 00.12 . Yesterday was his funeral. We are very sad ofcourse, but also thankful he has no pain and suffering anymore.....

Fannie

Like I said before, maybe this is just better for him... I'm sorry to hear it Fannie...

Thank you all for you're replies :wink:
@ hennes....i wish you all the best and hope you're fight to get you're wife back into you're life wil succeed

Sorry for you.My best to you and your family.

Thank you Fannie, I don´t know what to do without her, those 5 weeks already felt like an eternity.
I hope you and your family can get through this. Even though his death might be a relief for him, it´s a great loss. My great aunt is also very sick and it would be bette for her just to pass peacefully away

I tried to talk to my wife today. She almost didn´t say a word and she avoids talking about the situation
She just doesn´t want to hear how bad I feel. And she erased me from her fotolog like she´s just trying to erase me from her life and I still don´t have any idea why she´s treating me like that. She says she still cares for me but do you treat a person you don´t hate like that?
I feel helpless.

Sometimes there are situations in which people behave so that nobody except them understands them.Your wife seems like that, I don't know what are her reasons for leaving you, but for me it sounds like she doesn't want to even hear anything about you, so she thinks that explaining is unnecessary.I think that you deserve an explanation in any case-but because you don't get it, I think you are ruining yourself too much...Sometimes it's better to try to accept some situations because more we think about them, worse we feel and it seems like there's no exit.

I don't know your wife, neither I know you, but she seems a strange person because she doesn't want to talk at all.You never know what has been going on in her brains, love sometimes vanishes very fast, you can not even expect it, or perhaps there was something inside her that always "disturbed" her and she just wanted to end it all.But the fact that she doesn't want to talk after so many tries, is a sign (at least I think so), that you should enter a period of recovery and try to forget her or occupy yourself with other things.I'll tell you one example from my life, it's only partially similar, but it's how love vanished in almost a second.

I've been with one girl in high school for about four years and on friday we talked about our relationship and we both agreed that it's going on well etc, but on tuesday we went together to town, and it was the most strange situation in my life, we behaved like strangers, we were silent, we didn't know what to talk about etc..We went apart in two days - everything that was, has just vanished.I know that in my case there was no love from both sides, but it may happen that in your case live from your wife just vanished.It may happen and in such situations the person you liked/loved may get boring for you, that's perhaps why she doesn't want to talk to you anymore because it represents an obstacle for her.The distance between you is definitely a problem, but sincerely, if I were you and because she hasn't showed any will to communicate with you, I wouldn't travel over the ocean.It's your decision, of course, but from your description she seems highly ignorant right now and if you'll push into her, things might get worse.That's just my opinion, of course, you do as you want, but if some person disappoints me and doesn't give me any reason for his/her behaviour, I usually don't try to find deeper meaning in their behaviour because I just guess they are not worth it.

I understand that you still love her, but perhaps you should occupy yourself with some other things, I'm sure you can find some.And conversation with close, but only very close friends sometimes help.When conversation is over, situation is of course still the same, but sometimes you may feel relief, perhaps friends can find right words for you or give you some other advices.Even if it's harder on the beginning, try to find some occupation for whole day, that shall prevent you from thinking on your wife, or even if you still think about her, do sth. else at the same time, so she doesn't get over your mind all the time.

And don't take antidepressives, I had big problems because of some tablets, this is dangerous stuff, especially if you're under stress, horrible combination forms in brains and this is very unhealthy, mostly from physical point of view, there is also a brain damage.I'll stop preaching now, I can't be objective judge anyway.

Thanks a lot for your effort Butcher.
In my case the love is still big. We planned to have children together soon. I just can´t find distraction at work, nor when I´m with friends or doing sports.
I think I need to go to Mexico and try everything, I would hate myself for not having done everything possible.
Don´t you believe that love can also come back? That she sees she made a big mistake? Those things happen, too.

Yes, maybe love can come back.In your case it maybe really seems the best to travel over the ocean and face her, perhaps you'll clear problems - or not, but you should also be prepared for a disappointment.But once you're in Mexico, she'll have to talk to you. :wink:

In any case, do what you were planning to do first (they say that first thought is always the best), and if your orientation is Mexico-go straight ahead there

Good luck in both cases.

Well my first thought was leave everything behind here and move to Mexico, I´m already looking for a job there. I´d never give up fighting for her. I just don´t know, my family would hate me for interrupting my career here. They want to keep me from going. But if I´d just listen to my heart I won´t be a German citizen for long...

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Well my first thought was leave everything behind here and move to Mexico, I´m already looking for a job there. I´d never give up fighting for her. I just don´t know, my family would hate me for interrupting my career here. They want to keep me from going. But if I´d just listen to my heart I won´t be a German citizen for long...

sorry to hear all that... but u must give her time, maybe she needs it so as forget the things and excuse u.... in the meanwhile, work for ur own life, and go on with your career. I know it´s hard, and u feel so empty inside and so on, but life is sometimes very hard, that´s why we must go on and overcome all the difficulties, cause later, we will feel better and life will bring us what we were waiting for :wink: so cheep up and go on!!!

Huges

Thank you all for you support.
Maybe you could just help me to get through tis and maybe help me to gain her back if you know something? I appreciate your help. Wr´re a big family.
Just be sure I`ll be there for you all if you have a problem.

If you will still have the same feeling that you have to go to Mexico after some time, I can only suggest you to do it.But I wouldn't try living there, perhaps it would be better if you go there and finally face her and talk to her.I know it's not cheap to travel over the ocean, but maybe it's worth it.